Value Parenting

Parenting by Modeling. Be the person you want your children to grow up to be.

Your values matter. Use your values to raise caring, responsible, resilient and intelligent children.

Value parenting is a parenting approach based on Values that you as parents hold most dear. Value parenting is thus a universal approach because parents from any nationality, background or society can adopt the approach and orient it around what its core values are.

Values are principles or standards of behaviour that you deem important in life. To talk about values is to talk about what kind of person you want your child to be.

For a parent, it’s important that their children understand what is good and what are the long-term consequences of their actions. Children need to develop an intuition for the good and to value this goodness over immediate experience.

An idealist value-based mind has a clear understanding of the immediate and long-term good and chooses to do the right thing rather than the most convenient or advantageous thing. This may require one to go through hardships and inconvenience in the short run, and be mocked by many sometimes but he or she chooses what’s good in the long term.

A child brought up with an idealist mindset will seek a cure and not a fix, a solution, not a workaround, a confrontation, not a retreat, strength and not sympathy, respect and not praise, responsibilities not tasks, career not jobs, joy not just fun, journey and not ride.

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