Before getting into a relationship with a person, it makes sense to run this simple check: Just watch how the person treats their worst enemy.
This will tell you how you will be treated if by chance you are to be tagged as an enemy one day. You will get to feel that behaviour. Compassion or Kindness should be one of the most important criteria to look for in a relationship. They just have to be a nice person. Because, if, in a certain context, you are reclassified from friend to enemy, you should know the boundaries of someone’s ethics. If you see someone being bad to a server or someone engaging in unethical behaviour or suing other people or fighting other people all the time, it’s only a matter of time before they fight you. Just stay away from these high conflict people. Everyone has conflict, no one is clean, but that said, there are definitely people who engage in conflict and do it regularly and then make it a part of their lifestyle. Just walk away. It’s not worth it.
Kindness and compassion should not be compartmentalised: if one is a considerate person then everyone irrespective of whether you like them or not is a recipient of that behaviour. This kindness extends to all beings- plants, animals, birds and people. Kindness has no race, colour, religion, gender or income class. A simple acknowledgement that everyone is fighting their own small or large battles, goes a long way in making a person ‘nice’.
We have all met people who are low conflict and easy to get along with. We know they exist. Just stick to those.